"Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." - Lucille Ball

I was raised to achieve. Good grades, extracurricular activities, good college – my worth was measured by my accomplishments.

I became a master at checking boxes, exceeding expectations, and striving for external validation. But beneath the surface, something was missing: self-love.

The Self-Doubt Cycle: Chasing Validation from Others

I was constantly seeking approval, fearing failure, and never feeling quite good enough. My inner critic was relentless, whispering doubts and reminding me of my perceived shortcomings.

It was an exhausting cycle, one that left me feeling empty and unfulfilled, even as I achieved outward success.

The Community That Changed Everything: Discovering the Power of Self-Compassion

Joining a supportive community changed everything. Through Tony Robbins’ network, I connected with like-minded individuals who celebrated each other’s successes and offered constant encouragement during challenges. Surrounded by this positive energy, I began to see myself through a new lens.

I learned the transformative power of self-compassion:

• Celebrating My Wins: Instead of downplaying my accomplishments, I started to acknowledge and celebrate them, big or small.

• Treating Myself with Kindness: I learned to silence my inner critic and offer myself the same compassion and understanding I would give a dear friend.

• Embracing My Imperfections: I realized that perfection is an illusion and that my flaws and mistakes were part of what made me unique and valuable.

Becoming My Own Best Friend: The Journey to Unconditional Self-Love

This shift in mindset was a revelation. I realized that self-love wasn't about ego or vanity; it was about recognizing my inherent worth, regardless of my achievements or external validation.

It was about becoming my own best friend and advocate, offering myself the same unwavering support and encouragement I would give to someone I loved.

Are You Giving Yourself the Love You Deserve?

Take a moment to reflect on your own relationship with yourself:

• Do you celebrate your wins or downplay them?

• Do you treat yourself with kindness and compassion, or are you your own harshest critic?

• Do you seek validation from others or recognize your inherent worth?

If you're struggling with self-love, remember: you are worthy, you are capable, and you are deserving of your own love and acceptance.

Start today by acknowledging your strengths, celebrating your accomplishments, and treating yourself with the kindness and compassion you deserve. The world needs your unique gifts, and you can't fully share them until you embrace and love the amazing person you are.