How breaking free from cultural conditioning about "staying small" led to an eight-figure business and a life beyond my wildest dreams.

The Cultural Conditioning That Almost Killed My Dreams

Are you like me growing up? People say, "Be grateful. Don't think too big. Don't want too much. You are meant to be normal. Don't do what other people are doing."

Have you experienced that before?

I was raised as a typical Asian woman in Asia. In my generation, we were taught to graduate high school, get a job, get married, and be satisfied with life.

Something felt off about this path. It wasn't really aligned with me. However, that belief was still deeply instilled in me.

After I came to the United States, I still carried these limiting thoughts: "I shouldn't be dreaming too big. If I'm dreaming too big, is it because I'm greedy? Is it because I'm selfish? Is it because I want too much?"

I had all these negative imprints about why I should be just a normal person instead of chasing success and a better life.

Until I started this virtual assistant business.

This business became a blessing guided by God—because without divine intervention, I wouldn't be here today. I never imagined I would have this life.

You probably have that tiny voice inside saying, "Hey, you're meant to be bigger. You're meant to help more people. You're meant to live a bigger life." But there's another voice resisting: "No. That shouldn't be what you're doing."

If you have those conflicting thoughts, let me share the three mindset shifts that completely transformed my life and business.

The Three Mindset Shifts That Changed Everything

Shift #1: Allow Yourself to Dream

I literally just came from my coach Myron Golden's class, where we talked about this: Money is good. We should have a rich, wealthy life. It's okay to be wealthy. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

I love what he says. I don't know why people use the phrase "filthy rich." Why do rich people have to be "filthy"? It doesn't make sense.

However, I think we're conditioned to be shameful about living bigger, driven lives, living better. That's exactly what I experienced for decades.

The Russell Brunson Lesson That Opened My Mind

One thing Russell Brunson taught me that I really love is to turn a "no" into a "what if."

Instead of:

• "No, I cannot be a millionaire" → "What if I could be a millionaire?"

• "No, I'm not gonna help many people" → "What if you could help a lot of people?"

That shift in language creates a huge difference in possibilities.

My Personal Dreaming Success Story

I didn't think it was possible for me to take a three-month vacation. I live in the United States, my mom is in Singapore. In a normal life, you can only go home maybe 14 days out of a year if you don't take any other time off.

But I started thinking, "What if? What if I want to? What if I dream that I can stay with my mom for more than a month?"

And now I do exactly that. I spend at least three months a year in Asia, and my mom comes to the United States to spend time with me too. We spend three to four months a year together—more than most "normal" families who live in the same city.

From Zero to Eight Figures Through Dreaming

When I was doing zero revenue, I started asking, "What if I can do six figures? What if I can do seven figures?"

Now I generate eight figures annually. And I'm dreaming bigger: "What if I can do nine figures?"

Here's the beautiful truth: Dreaming doesn't cost you anything.

Feel free to dream. Dream about what you want. Maybe you want a boat, maybe you want to go on an Alaska cruise. Write down all your dreams. Wouldn't it be amazing if you could dream about something and look forward to it instead of just going through problems, negativity, and paying bills every single day?

Shift #2: Allow Yourself to Play

When I was 37-38 years old, I almost filed for divorce from my husband. During that difficult time, I realized something shocking: I didn't know when I had become a responsible adult and completely forgotten how to play.

I was always serious, serving, being responsible, and I never stopped. I never smiled anymore. I didn't know what a smile was. I didn't know what play was.

When one of my coaches told me, "You need to play. Let me play with you," I thought, "What do you mean? I pay you a lot of money, and you want me to play with you?"

The Energy Difference Between Doing and Playing

Play and being playful create completely different energy than when you're trying to solve problems or crush obstacles. There's a lightness, a joy, a creativity that emerges when you approach challenges as games rather than battles.

The Geometry Dash Lesson from My Son

When I observed my kids, they love this game called Geometry Dash. My son can play the same game and lose on one level for hundreds of times. He'll say, "Mommy, I've already tried a hundred times." Then suddenly, "Oh, I figured it out!" And he was having so much fun the entire time.

Every time he failed, he just kept trying, and he genuinely enjoyed the process. There was no frustration, no giving up—just pure enjoyment of the challenge.

I realized I don't really play anymore. I don't enjoy what I do anymore. I just do it because I have to. I don't put fun energy into it anymore.

Transforming Your Business Energy

I want to encourage you to start turning all your "do" energy into "play" energy. Play around with it. In my business, I play a lot. I try different things and see everything as a game. If I fail, that's okay. I'll try again. I'm having fun while doing it.

This shift in energy completely transforms not just how you feel about your work, but the results you achieve.

Shift #3: Allow Yourself to Fail

Here's a fundamental truth: If you don't fail, you don't get success. Failure is just a data point toward success. As long as you don't stop trying, you are learning. The only time you lose is when you stop.

The "Too Stupid to Quit" Philosophy

I remember when I was 25, I met a very successful entrepreneur. I asked him, "Oh my gosh, you're so successful. Can you tell me why you're so successful?"

He said something that shocked me: "Well, I am just someone who's too stupid to quit."

I said, "What? What do you mean?"

"I just don't quit. I fail, I just keep trying. I fail, I just keep trying. I've tried all the failures I can do. The only way left to go is success, so I become successful."

This was the first time I heard this perspective about failing, and it completely changed how I viewed setbacks.

The Universal Learning Example

Think about this: Have you ever met a kid or adult who doesn't learn how to walk if they have good legs?

Your kids fall every single time when they're learning to walk. Is there ever a parent who says, "You know what? You're terrible at walking. Don't learn anymore. Just crawl for the rest of your life"?

Of course not. You say, "Keep trying, keep trying. You fell. That's okay. Keep trying, get back up, then walk."

That's why we all learn how to walk. There's no exception unless you have a physical disability. The same principle applies to failure in business and life. As long as you keep trying, get back up, and keep moving forward, you will be okay.

We are all going to be okay if we just keep treating failures as learning experiences and get back up.

The Truth About Why Thinking Small Is Selfish

I want you to really absorb this lesson because it completely changed my perspective on success and wealth.

My coach said something that hit me like a lightning bolt: "It is very selfish for you to think small."

It's very selfish for you to think small, because when you think small and do small things, you might feel good about staying humble, but you're actually not benefiting everybody else. You're not serving the people that you are born to serve.

My Personal Example of Impact

Let me give you a concrete example. I live an amazing life now. I have incredible virtual assistants. I barely have to work—the work gets done automatically through the systems I've built.

And I'm supposed to teach this special skill to other people. I'm supposed to share what I've learned.

You're probably reading this because you want elements of my life—to travel the world, spend quality time with your children, and still be able to live a bigger life while making a meaningful impact on other people. You want to be like a kid in a candy store who gets all the candy without diabetes. You want to go to a buffet, eat all the food, and still lose weight.

I have that special ability. This is my specialty—using virtual assistants and delegation so I can live my true life.

The Ripple Effect of Thinking Bigger

Here's what happens when I operate at my highest level: While I'm delegating and hiring VAs to do the work, I'm simultaneously allowing them to work from home, make good money, and raise their children.

It's a win for everyone involved. When I help more and more people get successful through my programs and systems, guess what happens? I become more successful too. That means I become very wealthy, and there's no shame in being wealthy.

When I become wealthy, I can use that money to open orphanages, build schools, and help other people improve their lives. Money amplifies good—it makes more things better, not worse.

If I have more money, I can do better things and allow my team members and family to live better lives too.

The Multiplication Effect

This is why thinking small is actually selfish. When you play small, you limit not just your own potential, but everyone who could benefit from your gifts, your skills, your unique perspective and talents.

The world needs what you have to offer. But only if you're willing to think big enough to share it.

How to Implement These Shifts in Your Life

While you're focusing on the high-level MAGNET strategies, your virtual assistant enables the framework by:

Shift #1: Allow Yourself to Dream

• Replace every "no" with "what if"

• Write down dreams without judging their size

• Start with one "impossible" goal and work backward

Shift #2: Allow Yourself to Play

• Approach one business challenge as a game this week

• Find ways to inject fun into routine tasks

• Remember: play energy creates different results than grind energy

Shift #3: Allow Yourself to Fail

• Reframe failures as data points toward success

• Practice the "too stupid to quit" mentality

• Celebrate attempts, not just outcomes

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Your Invitation to Think Bigger

You, my friend, belong to a bigger life and bigger dreams.

The three shifts that will change your life are simple but not easy:

✅ Allow yourself to dream - Turn "no" into "what if"

✅ Allow yourself to play - Turn "do" energy into "play" energy

✅ Allow yourself to fail - See failure as stepping stones to success

The choice is yours. You can continue playing small, staying safe, and limiting your impact. Or you can embrace the truth that thinking bigger isn't selfish—it's the most generous thing you can do for the world.

What's one dream you've been telling yourself is "too big" that you could turn into a "what if"?

What area of your business could you approach with more "play" energy instead of "grind" energy?

The world is waiting for the bigger version of you. The question is: Are you ready to meet them?

Ready to start thinking bigger? Discover how building the right team and systems can give you the freedom to dream bigger while serving more people. Sometimes the first step is getting the right support structure in place.